I’ve conducted ceremonies everywhere—from hotel ballrooms, to living rooms, boats, and back gardens to botanical gardens, knows that with a little forward planning it’s perfectly feasible to have the wedding of your dreams, while respecting the wishes of family members.
The key is to consider what makes you as a couple happy, and plan ahead to help defuse any potential for a tense situation. Not only will you the bridal couple may be feeling hyper-emotional—your family members and other participants may be, also. Think about what your family might expect or appreciate and try to work with it. Many couples today are spiritual, but not conventionally religious, and this sometimes leads to conflict. Ceremonies may be interfaith or involve different cultures.
It’s important to respect your own beliefs on your important day, yet you may also wish to honor your heritage or the wishes of your parents. A family member may want to have a blessing, but you or your partner may not be religious. A way round this issue is to choose to have blessings that are not religious, yet meaningful.