Destressing Weddings and Families

I’ve conducted ceremonies everywhere—from hotel ballrooms, to living rooms, boats, and back gardens to botanical gardens, knows that with a little forward planning it’s perfectly feasible to have the wedding of your dreams, while respecting the wishes of family members.

When family and friends have divergent views, or are from different cultures or religions, you may think it’s impossible, especially if you’re dealing with estranged parents or tricky siblings with strong views… but don’t give up on your wedding day too soon.

The key is to consider what makes you as a couple happy, and plan ahead to help defuse any potential for a tense situation. Not only will you the bridal couple may be feeling hyper-emotional—your family members and other participants may be, also. Think about what your family might expect or appreciate and try to work with it. Many couples today are spiritual, but not conventionally religious, and this sometimes leads to conflict. Ceremonies may be interfaith or involve different cultures.

Plan ahead. It is possible to have the perfect wedding of your dreams, yet keep everyone happy.

It’s important to respect your own beliefs on your important day, yet you may also wish to honor your heritage or the wishes of your parents. A family member may want to have a blessing, but you or your partner may not be religious. A way round this issue is to choose to have blessings that are not religious, yet meaningful.

often encourage the soon-to-be-married couple to involve family members in an active role. Perhaps have mothers helping to light candles and grandparents giving readings. Assigning defined roles to family members and including them in some way in the ceremony often helps as everyone has the same goal of making the wedding a special day for everyone.
 
Best for now and have a good one/don’t work too hard!